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"Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life; worse still, we take this step with the false assumption that our truths and ideals will serve us hitherto. But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning; for what was great in the morning will be little at evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie."  - Carl Jung

    “What’s my next step in this relationship?” It’s easy to run out of flexibility and creativity when you are trying to figure out a new relationship. Sometimes, all you need is one new idea to take a relationship the next step. Write me at drbelove@datingatmidlife.com to arrange for a complimentary “next step” coaching call.

   How much time and money are you investing in your Internet personal ad? Check out this article in the January 2005 newsletter and learn how to write a great Internet ad. Write me at drbelove@datingatmidlife.com to arrange for four sessions to clarify your vision for a great relationship and, in the process, to create a personal ad that works. Also, see the article in May 2004 for information on the inevitable distortions in e-relationships

  New articles: Shattered Vows: Getting Beyond Betrayal, "Something's Gotta Give," the movie, and what we can learn from it for dating at midlife, from Erica and Harry; Articles from Sue Price: Dating Online and What is Love?

 

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Revised: July 22, 2005

You are a midlife adult now. 

You can learn to create and manage your relationships.

You can get what you really want.

 Welcome to Datingatmidlife.com 

Being single and dating is so different at midlife that I've created a special  site with help, advice and resources. I'm a real human being, as you are-  not some kind of big business corporate organization, and I really care about helping you find fulfillment in your relationships! 

You CAN create an exciting, fulfilling life partnership life. But don't be too hard on yourself if you haven't yet. Here are some of the real challenges you face as a single person at midlife:

Finding yourself single at midlife is a form of midlife crisis, and it doesn't matter whether you left the relationship or it left you, it's still your crisis.

In a crisis, there is no way back to what used to be "normal". No matter what you do, something new must happen. 

Midlife dating is confusing because there are four stages to the midlife crisis for single people (check out my article on the stages of midlife dating). In each stage there is a different way you have to take care of yourself and a different set of lessons to learn.  

Success in partnerships at midlife demands higher level skills and more self knowledge. Which skills? What kind of self-knowledge? How do you learn about something if you don't know that you don't know it?  

If you are a caring person who has experienced heartbreak in the struggle to achieve a mature intimate connection as you reach midlife and beyond, well into your aging years, if you hope for the profound intimacy of a strong sexual connection with a significant other, read on!

You are here because you want to create a satisfying and enriching midlife.  

To attract, create and nurture a partnership you must:

  Create a true vision for yourself for the rest of your life

  Master higher level communication skills.

  Create a wise support system for yourself

  Take healthy control of all the relationships you already have

  Learn to take calculated risks

That’s a graduate school curriculum in human relationships. 

You can do it! I can help!

For starters, on this web site, I've included advice, hints and articles, book recommendations, and inspirational poetry

That's not all... 

If you like my approach, and the thinking seems solid to you, check out the many opportunities for coaching, quick consultations, teleclasses and telegroups, or write me.